5 Forms Of Verbal Abuse You Should Not Tolerate

Not a single blow has to fall and yet there is violence:  abuse and violence can also be with words or behaviour. Verbal abuse and insults can also hurt another person and undermine their well-being.

That’s why today we’re focusing on verbal abuse that you shouldn’t tolerate from anyone, especially your partner. It is important that you recognize it and put an end to it.

What is Verbal Abuse?

When we hear the words “violence” or “abuse,” we often automatically relate it to a slap or punch. However, there are other ways to hurt a person without even touching them.

How?

By words.

Insults, humiliation and yelling are some of the most common forms of verbal abuse.

We often don’t see verbal and emotional abuse as severe, because it leaves no visible marks on the body. However, it causes permanent damage to the soul, psyche and self-confidence.

Verbal abuse can be even more painful than physical abuse and has devastating consequences for the person who experiences it on a daily basis.

Some of these consequences are:

• Depression
• Fear
• Phobias
• Panic attacks
• Lack of self confidence

It is also possible that this violence causes alienation from family and friends, loss of your social life, or lack of personal achievement due to a lack of self-confidence.

People who use verbal abuse don’t always go for physical abuse. It is not necessary. They already have someone by their side who is dependent on them, insecure and so afraid that they will do what the abuser wants.

At some point, the person being hurt will “wake up” and realize what they’ve all been through. And they must leave before it is too late.

What types of verbal abuse are there?

There are actually several ways to attack someone without even touching them. Non-physical violence is more common than many think because we often don’t know how to identify it.

We could tell ourselves that he yelled because ‘he was on edge’ or because ‘he had a terrible day at work’… Then he apologizes, gives us a rose and everything is forgotten.

However, this is in reality a form of abuse. And if you tolerate this aggressive behavior, you’ll just hurt yourself more.

That’s right: because you receive a “daily portion” of hurtful or offensive phrases, your self-esteem is damaged. You are not aware of the toll it takes on you. Unfortunately , it will be very difficult to believe in yourself again after all you have heard.

We will now discuss the most common forms of verbal abuse.

1. Humiliation

Humiliating words are words that subtly make us think we are incapable of doing anything.

Some common phrases are:

• “You don’t know about money because you’re a woman.”
• “Just stick to cooking and cleaning.”
• “Make me a sandwich, that’s why you’re my wife.”
• “You’re not doing that right.”
• “You are useless.”

And those are just a few examples.

Humiliation can also come in the form of ridicule. Laughing at the way you dress, something you say, a dream you have, is part of this.

2. Accusation and Guilt

Everything bad that happens at home is your fault, if:

• He is tired.
• is hungry.
• Had a bad day at work.
• There is not enough money.
• Something breaks.
• You can’t have children.

No matter what it is, even if you didn’t make the mistake, or if you did something by accident, he will blame you.

3. Criticism

This is a lot like the first of the verbal abuse we mentioned (humiliation), because it always seems like you’re doing something wrong. In this case:

• He breaks down the things you love.
• He compares you to his ex-lovers or to his mother.

• He points out your shortcomings and seems to judge every move.

Usually , verbal abuse comes before physical abuse and shows that you are with an aggressive partner who is also dependent on you.

• “If you leave, I will kill myself.”
• “If you leave, you can forget the children.”
• “If you tell anyone, I’ll leave you without money,”
• and so on

In this case, emotional manipulation will keep you from taking action and sticking by his side no matter how he treats you. Threats don’t always turn into something real, but you obey the abuser’s orders because you don’t want to risk it.

4. Assignments

One of the most degrading forms of verbal aggression that can exist is treating a person like a slave. This can be anywhere, including in the bedroom.

Be careful about the kinds of orders he gives you and especially the way you listen to them. There’s a difference between the person asking you, “Can you please bring me a glass of water” and “Give me a glass of water, that’s what you’re there for.”

5. Block your opinion

Finally , in this case, he won’t let you say what you think or feel about a subject. Or, if you do, he’ll reject your opinion.

Some common phrases to watch out for may include:

• “You don’t know what you’re talking about.”
• “Who are you to comment on this?”
• “Since when are you an expert in this field?”
• “Shut up, I didn’t ask you for your opinion.”

If any of these phrases sound familiar to you, seek help and leave the relationship. You deserve better.