The Others Are Your Mirror. What Do You Want To Show Them?

Did you know that others are your mirror? What you see is a reflection of yourself. Maybe you never realized this. But the connection with yourself always happens through the contact with others.

We give you an example. You sometimes notice that your friends are annoyed by other people’s things while they don’t bother you. Why is this happening? Because they see in others something that is part of themselves and that is why they react.

The problem is the way we think about it. Because we believe that how we react is not up to us. We say it’s because of that other person. That’s the first mistake we make.

If you didn’t have a problem with it, you wouldn’t notice their behavior at all. We are talking about behaviors like lying, infidelity, or some other characteristics that we find despicable.

You may think it is terrible that others are your mirror. But actually it offers an excellent opportunity to discover what you need to heal in yourself.

Think about this example for a moment. Suppose you are annoyed that someone criticizes others. You really can’t stand that behavior. If this happens, pay close attention! You may be too hard on yourself. But you may also be too demanding. So this may be an indication that you need to change.

Another example is when you have suffered infidelity or cheated on someone several times. Even then you have to be careful. Find out if you are being untrue to yourself in any way.

In what area do you not respect your own values?

As you can see, the mirror does not tell you that you are the one who criticizes others. It also does not tell you that you are unfaithful to your partner. But it shows you what your relationship is with yourself.

As a result, you begin to interpret the situation based on your experience.

Thanks to others you will see which things you can improve in yourself.

Are you annoyed because your partner is very attached to his or her mother? Then ask yourself some questions. How is your relationship with your mother? Wouldn’t you like a closer bond deep in your heart?

People usually put their happiness in the hands of others. But they also do this with other things. For example, we accuse others of making us angry.

But no one can provoke a reaction in you other than the reaction you want to feel. Unless they open a pre-existing wound, it’s up to you how you feel.

For example, suppose your boss tells you how to do the job better. If this makes you feel very rejected, it may be because you feel very insecure.

Each mirror says something that directs the focus to yourself. The mirrors focus on you and ensure that you become responsible for yourself.

It feels better for you to blame others for what happens to you. But that unfaithful person who annoys you is telling you something. It can also affect you directly.

For that reason, people always feel connected to themselves in one way or another. Whatever good or bad you see in the other person, you own yourself. If it wasn’t, you wouldn’t even see it.

Sometimes people suffer because their friends never call them. They must always be there for the others but the other is not there for them. In other cases, people complain of falling for the same kind of partner over and over again. They start a relationship in which they end up suffering alone.

If you feel pain or if something in your relationship isn’t going well, make the best of it. Learn from what you experience. Use that experience as an opportunity to see what things hurt you inside.

Because you always focus on others, you know how to read them. But we don’t believe that what happens to us has nothing to do with us. What we also don’t believe is that these people are narcissists or bad persons.

Try to focus on the way you relate to others.   Find out what it tells you. Maybe you give too much and others don’t get the space to do something themselves. Because they can also do things for your relationship.

If you end up with the same kind of person over and over, it might be because you don’t respect or love yourself. You may be suffering from some kind of dependency.

At that point you have to take off the blindfold.